Four
Agreements: A Book Review by M. Ann Phillips, Ph.D.
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Don
Miguel Ruiz is a Toltec master, a nagual or person
of knowledge. He shares his knowledge and experience
about living a life of integrity, spiritual development
and striving for personal freedom in his book 'The Four
Agreements: A Toltec Wisdom book'. The Toltec, Ruiz
explains, were a society of scientists and artists,
who thousands of years ago in southern Mexico, came
together "to explore and conserve the spiritual
knowledge and practices of the ancient ones". This
ancient knowledge is very applicable today and anyone
can choose the path of the Toltec.
Being
a Toltec is a way of life "where there are no leaders
and no followers, where you have your own truth and
live your truth". This is done by mastering the
arts of Awareness; of Transformation and of Intent,
which Ruiz discusses. Sounds like anarchy - well not
really, but it is about spiritual development and breaking
free of the bonds of domestication of the human spirit
which are part of the socialization we undergo as we
children becoming part of human societies. This book
describes the steps to becoming truly empowered as human
beings.
For
those of us who are avid fans of Carlos Casteneda, Ruiz
builds on that tradition and enhances our knowledge
of the Toltec path to freedom. True freedom is an expression
of the human spirit - the ability to be who we really
are and to express our essence. In order to achieve
true freedom we have to break the old agreements we
have made on the path to domestication - agreements
with ourselves, agreements with our parents and agreements
with society. These agreements must be substituted with
new agreements, specifically the Four Agreements from
which the book gets it's name.
The
four agreements we must make with ourselves are 1) Be
Impeccable With Your Word - speak with integrity;
say only what you mean and use the power of your word
only in the direction of truth and love; 2) Don't
Take Anything Personally - what others say and do
is a projection of their own reality, it has nothing
to do with you; 3) Don't Make Assumptions - find
the courage to ask questions and to express what you
really want; communicate with others as clearly as you
can to avoid sadness, misunderstandings and drama; 4)
Always Do Your Best - under any circumstance
simply do your best and you will avoid self-judgement,
self abuse and regret.
Ruiz
suggests that it takes the discipline of a warrior to
control our own behaviour and to break the old agreements
we have with ourselves such as the belief that we are
not good enough or smart enough. By following the way
of the warrior, the way of self improvement and of discipline,
which Ruiz differentiates from that of the soldier who
follows the orders of others, it is possible to become
aware of our old agreements and begin the journey to
changing them. By adopting the Four Agreements and putting
them into practice we break our addiction to being who
we have become used to being, get rid of dysfunctional
patterns and develop the courage to become who we really
are.
In
this book, Ruiz provides four seemingly simple suggestions
designed to lead to spiritual growth and freedom. Those
of us on such a path, know that it is at the same time
exceedingly easy and supremely difficult. Many people
believe they have already made these agreements, but
most lack the self-discipline to follow through what
they need to do and the honesty to truly analyze their
behaviour and make changes where they are needed. Integrity
and self-discipline are vital when following a path
which moves us towards expressing our true spiritual
nature and becoming empowered, spiritually mature human
beings.
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